Single until Married?

Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

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Today we are covering:

• What is “single until married."?

• A healthier view on “single until married”.

What is “single until married."?

Single until married. I have seen this statement all over different social media platforms: Instagram, TikTok, you name it. And although I have heard this phrase so many times, I have never really understood its practice.

Now, if we are in the court of law and using legal terms, yes, you're single until married.

If you are on life support and someone needs to decide whether you remain on life support, then in most cases, you're single until married. If an individual is in a committed relationship but not legally married, their ability to make medical decisions on behalf of their partner is likely limited. Even with a medical directive, in most jurisdictions, the designation of a healthcare proxy or granting someone the authority to make medical decisions on behalf of an individual typically requires a legal relationship.

Anything outside of these scenarios is likely unwise to be "single until married." I'll explain why.

The phrase "single until married" means to act single until you're married because you want to keep your options open in case another person comes along who seems more fitting. It seems contradictory and can lead potential life partners astray.

The interpretation and application of this phrase seem to vary among individuals and cultures, but it still holds no practical value. If you are going to get into an exclusive relationship and act "single" (exploring additional romantic relationships, making decisions independently without considering a partner's preferences or needs, etc.) until you are married, then you should just remain single. 🤣

Being "single until married" may indicate a lack of emotional investment in the relationship. It suggests that one is not fully committed or emotionally available, which can hinder the development of a deep and meaningful connection.

By acting single until married, individuals may miss out on the opportunity to build a strong foundation of trust, shared experiences, and mutual growth that can contribute to a successful marriage.

If marriage is the goal, then your relationship with a particular person is often seen as a precursor to marriage. It is important to approach dating with the intention of finding a suitable life partner to build with, rather than simply seeking semi-committed relationships until someone proposes.

Who wants to marry someone that acts single???

A healthier view on “single until married”.

Here’s an alternative perspective on the path to achieving the goal of marriage. This is a general roadmap that outlines a healthy and efficient approach to navigating the dating process with the ultimate aim of establishing a marital relationship.

It's important to acknowledge that the timeline and specific steps may vary depending on the individuals involved, and it's crucial to adapt the pace according to the comfort level and readiness of both partners.

Self-Reflection and Goal Setting:

• Take time to reflect on your own values, goals, and what you're looking for in a partner and marriage.

• Set clear intentions and communicate your relationship goals openly and honestly.

Meeting Potential Partners:

• Engage in social activities, join interest-based groups, etc.

• Be open-minded, but also have criteria and standards in mind to ensure compatibility.

Initial Dating Phase:

• Go on casual dates to get to know each other better.

• Focus on building a connection, sharing experiences, and discovering shared values and interests.

• Keep communication open and honest, expressing your expectations and desires for the relationship.

Developing a Committed Relationship:

• As the relationship progresses and both individuals feel a strong connection, discuss exclusivity and commitment.

• Define the relationship, establish clear boundaries, and discuss future plans together.

Building Trust and Emotional Intimacy:

• Continue to foster trust and emotional intimacy by deepening communication and vulnerability.

• Support each other's personal growth, dreams, and aspirations.

• Work on resolving conflicts and developing healthy communication patterns.

Assessing Long-Term Compatibility:

• As the relationship becomes more serious, discuss important topics such as values, life goals, and expectations for marriage.

• Evaluate compatibility in areas such as finances, family, and plans for the future.

Pre-Marriage Preparation:

• Engage in pre-marital counseling or seek guidance from trusted mentors or relationship experts.

• Use this time to further build your emotional bond, address any concerns or unresolved issues, and develop skills for a successful marriage.

Proposal and Engagement:

• When both partners feel ready for marriage, the proposer can plan and execute a thoughtful proposal.

• After the proposal, engage in discussions about wedding plans, logistics, and preparations for married life.

Marriage:

• Celebrate your marriage with a wedding ceremony and embark on your lifelong journey together.

• Continue to nurture the relationship, prioritizing open communication, mutual respect, and ongoing growth as a couple.

Remember, the timeline for each stage can vary significantly, and it's crucial to prioritize open communication, respect, and mutual consent throughout the process.

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